As the old saying goes, a man stands at thirty. Time flies, and some boys born in the late 1970s and early 1980s have become 30-year-old men in a twinkling of an eye. In the eyes of the older generation, those who have not married and married at the age of 30 will most likely be called "older young people" and "poor families"... But now look around, and the men who have not married at the age of 30 are really a dozen. It seems that not getting married before the age of 30 has become a new fashion for many men. They do not have the sad face of "bachelor". On the contrary, they all live a wonderful life, whether in life or career, They are all able to fend for themselves and have no worries about food and clothing, while they are serious, rational and willing to give up. Looking around, the society no longer looks at men who are still single at the age of 30. People begin to be more and more tolerant and slowly understand that 30 is not the threshold for a person to pursue happiness.
So, what is the 30-year-old man thinking? What kind of state are their feelings in? What is their attitude towards marriage?
Let's take a look at the love story of these two 30-year-old men. Their story itself may be an answer.
Hero 1: Li Mou
Love stable type
Men in their 30s are more aware of what kind of life they want. They are more aware of the truth that life is for themselves, so they are not in a hurry to change themselves for others.
"My girlfriend and I are all" three "people. Both his parents and mine have urged us to get married for several years, but we are not in a hurry," said Li. He looks handsome and tall, and looks like he is only twenty-seven or eight-year-old. In fact, he is 32 years old. "Li continued, "Some friends around us were also eager to worry for us at first, and let us hurry to get the certificate while the iron is hot, but when we saw that we were not in a hurry, we gradually got used to it. My girlfriend and I have a stable relationship. We have already determined that the other side is the person who will go through this life together, but he and I are very independent people, so we are not in a hurry to get married so early. We want to live a few years of single life first."
Perhaps with the support of stable feelings, Mr. Li can devote himself to his work and accomplish a little in his career. At present, he is already a middle-level leader of his unit. Li Mou is very satisfied with his current life. He told the reporter that this Spring Festival, she and her girlfriend have made an agreement to live alone for another year, and they will get married next year.
Hero 2: Zhang
Cohabitation trial marriage type
30-year-old men are more calm and rational when considering problems.
"I thought I knew someone very well, but after a period of time, I found out why I didn't know anything at all?" Zhang was very depressed, confused and confused. He has been in love with his girlfriend for three years, and they have lived together in the last year. Although they had a sweet childhood, it is inevitable that there are still some difficulties, such as whether the taste of cooking is according to him or her, whether to eat rice or pasta, whether to turn on the air conditioner or not, whether friends come to borrow money or not, whether to introduce all their friends to each other, or to leave some private space, Whether the other party should be unreserved and tolerant or insist on the position and apologize for the other party's mistakes... All these tests the tacit understanding between the two. "We seem to be tested by these trivial things, but these small things are enough to destroy the mood of two people. After a long time, we will think, is this person what we want, is it really suitable for us?" Zhang said frankly, his love is facing a severe test, "If it is really inappropriate, it will definitely break up. It will not be forced to marry because it is 31 years old. This will only harm others and yourself. Of course, it must be fully communicated and carefully considered before making a decision to break up."
The perspective of love is different from that of the past. "In the past, it would be better to just think about two people being happy together. Now, I will think more about it. I hope that this relationship can have a beginning and an end. I can hold the hand of my son and grow old with my son." The perspective of love is different, and the way of dealing with it is also different. "If a feeling is placed in front of me, I will not take myself as the center of everything, make trouble for nothing, and make everyone very unhappy. Instead, I will tolerate each other, understand each other, and leave room for each other."
The bystander said
Supporters:
"Happy Whale" said: Let me calculate for you: college at the age of 18, graduate student at the age of 22, doctor at the age of 28, if possible, and then work for a few years. After all, they are just out of society and still young. Isn't it old to get married at this time?
"Sunflowers are thriving" said: I do not support marriage before the age of 28, because everyone is not mature, and there are too many unrealistic ideas about marriage, and there is a great possibility of regret after marriage, so we might as well consider marriage at the age of 28.
"I love eating oranges" said: Isn't there a saying that men of different ages like different types of women, but women of all ages like mature and stable men, so men should start their careers first and then start a family.
Opposition:
"Dream chasers" said: I have a personal experience of starting a family before starting a career. I am 35 years old now, and I used to earn a lot of money. But because I didn't have a family, I spent all my money at random and didn't buy a house. I regret it until now. If I could get married earlier, it would be completely different now.