Post Date December, 03 2023
"We have been married for nearly three years, and now that our daughter is 13 months old, I don't understand. She's all from the 1980s. I've been 85 years old, and she's 87 years old. How can I feel like my 26-year-old wife is becoming more and more like an old woman in her body and speech?".
"My wife is one meter six, and when I first met her in love, she weighed 116 pounds. Since giving birth to the baby, she has not breastfed any more, and she has not paid attention to losing weight. She now weighs over 120 pounds, with fat around her waist in circles, a small belly, thick thighs and buttocks, and a strong neck. She has a double chin. Anyway, it gives the impression that my wife is so strong.".
"I am 172cm, weighing only 130 pounds, and I often tell her to eat less meat, pay attention to losing weight, and be slim and look prettier. She tells me whether I dislike her, whether I am a lecher, or I am a pervert. She nags endlessly, like an old woman, but in short, she still likes snacks, ham sausages, and meat. Hey, have you ever seen such a wife?"?
As a husband and wife, I shouldn't have criticized her this way, but she's really not paying attention to her image. She dresses up very carefully before going to work and goes out every day, and looks a bit more comfortable. When she comes home, especially on weekends, she hangs around with a hairpin and a clip in her hair, wears pajamas, and slippers. Her parents-in-law are at home, and she doesn't pay attention to her image. What's more, when she first met someone in love, She is still very reserved, and now they are in bed, farting loudly, as if they were deliberately making such a loud noise. Is it true that a woman is married?
Also, have you ever seen a 26 year old woman nagging all day? Is it true that women in the north always hang on men with their mouths open all day, saying that I'm not motivated, that I don't feel sorry for her, that I'm too easily satisfied, that I feel too good about myself... A while ago, I entered the QQ space of my ex girlfriend in college. Although her ex is now married in Shenzhen, she doesn't have children, but her figure, dress, temperament, and look at my wife, it's really not a few grades!
Re:
From the modern marriage perspective of mutual attraction and mutual need, your marriage is not bad because you also need her to lose weight and pay attention to her image, while she needs you to be more motivated, work harder, and earn more money back. The key is that these needs for each other can be met. Therefore, as long as you meet each other's needs, the relationship between husband and wife will become harmonious.
"It's a good thing that your attention is still on each other, but because of this, you can't attract each other. You reject her so much that it makes you miss your college girlfriend who abandoned you. She doesn't repel you, but she's not attracted to you. She doesn't have the motivation to dress you up, and she has a blue temperament.".
From a different perspective, it's also a good thing that your wife is becoming more and more like an old woman, indicating that she doesn't have the intention of cheating and wants to live with peace of mind. "If you focus more on your work, she will appreciate you, respect you, and have a sense of crisis when she sees that you have a future. She will automatically lose weight, and she won't be so nagging at ordinary times. Naturally, you won't be so exclusive to her.".
It's you who are not comfortable living now. Do you want to reflect on your motivation to marry her, whether it's because you love her or because she treats you well? Judging from her requirements for you, you are an incompetent man, and nine out of ten incompetent men cannot marry the woman they love, and the quality of your marriage can only be this way.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)
