When standing, if your feet are not wide enough apart, it is best to separate them about half a meter.
Standing with your feet too close indicates that you are afraid of invading someone else's space.
2. Use excessive gestures when speaking.
Gestures, gestures, and so on seem like you're using sign language, indicating that you're afraid that just talking won't hold others' attention. Be sure to wave your hands. Or a foreigner who has nothing to learn from their own imagination. I think it's cool to use gestures to learn from foreigners when speaking.
Of course, if gestures are used well and appropriately, they do have their benefits. However, I see that the vast majority of people are now using them indiscriminately, using too much. A good gesture must be infrequent throughout the conversation. The number of occurrences must also be very small. Only use it at critical moments to emphasize something you are saying. Moreover, the amplitude is relatively small and not exaggerated. The amplitude is small, but it must be strong and firm. Sometimes it can be gentle like a gentleman, but it also needs to be gentle with strength.
3. Lean forward towards the woman, or lean forward towards the woodpecker.
This leaning forward means that when talking to a woman, your upper body slightly charges forward, leaning forward in the direction of the woman, possibly trying to get closer to her, or trying to hear what she is saying more clearly, and so on.
The most common reason is that a man leans forward towards a woman when he doesn't hear the other person clearly or when their voice is too low, which is a sign of getting closer. The woodpecker leans forward continuously, then straightens its body, and then leans forward again. Continuously repeating.
The most common reason for this behavior is that every time a woman speaks, you lean forward to hear her more clearly or to show interest in her words, and then after speaking, you straighten your body. Alternatively, every time you speak on your own, come together and step back after you finish speaking. Another thing is that some friends listen to me and say, 'Don't lean forward.' When they are having sex with a woman, they suddenly remember to straighten their bodies, and then gradually forget, and their bodies automatically lean forward again. The problem of leaning forward is natural, and most people have it. It is a manifestation of valuing the other person's social value higher than oneself, in order to please others.
This behavior must be changed. People have automatic and immediate reactions in various behaviors, and their first natural response to someone approaching you is to step back or lean back. So, if you want to approach in the right direction, you can tilt your body back slightly, remember to be natural, slightly.
4. Chase after women, follow after them.
If you are talking to a woman and she answers while continuing to walk, or if she ignores you and continues to walk, don't follow after her. If a woman's body moves away from you, you also need to move away from your body, or even more, rather than chasing after them. Or just stand still. If you still want to talk to her, speak louder instead of following her up. Don't chase her, the more you chase her, the more she wants to run.
5. Tolerate women for things you don't like and can't tolerate, and pretend to be indifferent.
And if an ugly woman or a man does the same thing, you won't seem indifferent. If that's the case, you're giving this beautiful woman special treatment, why? Oh, because you want to fuck her. Do you think she can't tell? Women are inherently 10 times more sensitive than men in detecting such things. These behaviors may be small, such as a woman suddenly walking away while you are talking to her, which is impolite. If you pretend that nothing has happened after she comes back, the woman's respect for you will be much reduced.
At this point, several methods can be used. One is to respond by giving her corresponding punishment. The punishment men give to women is not to give them your attention and time. For example, if you are already familiar with a woman's behavior or if you don't like it during the dating process, you can directly point out to her that one of her behaviors is not good or polite. For example, you can say to the woman who walked away above, "You know it was impolite for you to walk away like that just now." Then look into her eyes. Be very serious. At this point, the sexual tension between you will increase. After 4 seconds, suddenly you will have a bad smile, touch her with your hand, or hug her and say, "Don't cry, just correct it," and then you will have a bad smile again. This not only expresses your dissatisfaction, but also demonstrates your man's ability to handle social problems without appearing too serious or rigid. Her liking for you will increase a lot.
6. Turn your head too quickly to the person calling you.
Being too eager to talk to others indicates that you are too eager for others to pay attention to you. The message behind it is that there may not be much to talk to you on a regular basis. If you face east and a woman calls you from south, slowly turn your face around to face her. Another technique is to stop in the southeast (45 degree angle) when turning from east to south, and then continue to turn to the person speaking to you. This is something that many very attractive men have been doing. This is a great example in an American movie, "Law of Attraction," where the male protagonist turns his head in the final scene.
7. Pay more attention or better to women than to your buddies.
If you are talking to a woman and your buddies come to you, because you cherish talking to this beautiful woman too much, either ignore or casually send your buddies. This is very wrong. You may only know this little girl for about a few minutes, or a few days. You and your buddies may have a friendship of 3 or 10 years, why do you pay more attention to this little girl? By the way, you care too much about her. Afraid of wasting every second with her. Why is it not good? Let's not talk about it.
8. Be reckless, not confident.
You feel in your heart that she cannot be interested in you, so you deliberately do some strange self defeating invitations to others to refuse your things and words. In this way, even if a woman refuses you, you won't be hurt by yourself, because you can say to yourself, it's not that I can't do it, but that I deliberately use these self defeating words to make them refuse me. These can be seen some "migrant workers" friends on the street hitting and pretending to be fashionable beauties, blindly shouting "Beauty Ah Beauty" or "Come beauty, smile". This is actually because they themselves feel that it is impossible to obtain this fashionable woman, and the result of these behaviors is often to attract the attention of beautiful women and accelerate their escape. It seems that they are also chatting up, as if others dare not do so. They dare, but in fact, it is an excessive manifestation of inferiority. Of course, it's not their fault. It's just normal human behavior. If you can't get it yourself, people will convince themselves not to do it, or do some actions to convince themselves that they really don't want it. The principle of saying grapes are sour if you can't eat them.
9. Overfilling the feeling of feeling guilty and insecure. Afraid of not being accepted.
There is a street sweeper, and the first thing he says when he meets someone is how he doesn't care about money and material possessions. Or encountering someone who is bald and particularly concerned about others saying they are bald or have hair. Or people who don't have money, but usually like to show off and so on.
They are all afraid that others will look down on them. They actually cannot accept certain characteristics or facts of themselves, so it is assumed that if they do nothing, others will also not accept their problems. In fact, if I ask him what kind of job you do, the cleaner says, "I'm a cleaner," and he says that much instead of the following views on money and materials. We usually don't immediately think about why this person is so unproductive. He said this, and we all have a feeling in our hearts that he feels like he's not promising. It just reminds us. Similarly, another example is asking him what he does and he says, "My name is Huang Dapao, I am a cleaner, and I actually really enjoy my job.
That is to mention these issues too early and rush to tell others without anyone asking you is also an excessive way to make up for our insecurity. What we need to do is to completely accept ourselves, no matter what shortcomings we have, completely accept ourselves and like ourselves. If you are bald, don't say, would you like a bald man? As a pickup line. This is not a sign of confidence, but rather self An expression of unease. If you feel that you don't look good or are too short, you can completely avoid mentioning this topic.
If you do something poorly and fail. For example, giving speeches, taking exams, dating girls, and so on, don't say things like 'I'm too tired to perform well' and give yourself reasons. Even if you're really tired and didn't perform well, don't say that. This is explaining to others why you didn't perform well. You explain because you care about others thinking you can't do it, and you don't have the ability. So I need to explain that what is usually good is due to this special reason. That is, seeking recognition from others. But the more you explain, the more others lose respect for you. A true leader takes on all responsibilities, even some of which are not his own. Leadership qualities are an important factor in attracting women. For example, if you wear worn-out clothes all day, don't say 'I have very good clothes at home, all of which are brand names'. Don't mention anything about this matter.
10. Return to the previous stage in the process of picking girls. Many of the people we learn to attract initially have this problem.
We have learned a lot of various techniques, jokes, tricks, etc. that showcase high social value to create a woman's attraction to you. I also learned a lot of other attractive materials, such as suppression and intentional misunderstandings. If you and she have passed this stage and are already in the process of getting to know each other, becoming familiar with each other, and building trust, many of our students have this tendency to return to these attractive jokes, suppress her, and so on. This will undermine your trust building and you will return to the original steps.
The purpose of attracting materials is to attract women to get to know each other and build trust with you. After reaching this step, there is no need to go back to the previous step. One of the reasons why many people can't help but go back to the previous attraction material step is because they like to constantly create women's attraction to them because they like it.
They may have never had a beautiful woman attract them before, but now they have finally learned a few techniques that can make women attract them, so they have always had the impulse to use them. Another reason is that they are not very good at understanding each other and building trust with women at this stage, and do not know how to do it. So, they keep returning to their familiar attraction materials. These are all normal processes of PUA development, and everyone who learns about them has gone through them. But the difference lies in how much time you need to overcome this problem. For this, everyone is different.
With these little tricks, you no longer need to be afraid that your plan to pick up girls will be broken. However, these small flaws cannot be changed overnight, and they still need to be persevered, starting well and ending well.
(Intern Editor: Liu Feifei)